Code of Conduct & Awareness Rules for Our Kinky Events

in Cologne and NRW

Let's have a good time

Our Ground Rules

Here is an overview of our house rules. These guidelines are essential to ensuring everyone's safety and well-being and keeping the evening running smoothly.

Every guest must follow these rules. We want to be clear that we take a zero-tolerance approach to violations: Anyone who disregards the rules will be removed from the venue immediately, without warning.

We therefore ask you to read the following points carefully and follow them strictly:

1. Consent Is Absolutely Mandatory (Only Yes Means Yes)

This means:

Ask before touching: Touching is only allowed if you ask first and receive a clear “yes”.

Clothing is not consent: An outfit, no matter how revealing, is never an automatic invitation.

No assumptions: Someone “seeming interested” is not enough. Always ask explicitly.

Respect boundaries: A “no”, “stop” or body language that signals rejection ends any interaction immediately.

Roles: Never interpret gestures or roleplay behaviour (such as submission) as blanket consent.

Important: Nobody owes anyone an explanation for a “no”. Every “no” must be accepted immediately and without comment.

2. No Phones or Photography (Protecting Privacy)

To preserve every guest's anonymity, the following applies throughout the event:

Strictly no photos or filming: No recordings of any kind may be made.

Put phones away: Smartphones and cameras must stay in your bag or pocket, or will be taped over/locked away at the entrance.

No exceptions: Taking photos of other guests or the venue is strictly prohibited.

Zero tolerance: Even discreet filming, audio recordings or quick snapshots count as serious rule violations and will result in immediate removal.

We protect the "Safer Space": We can only all party freely when nobody feels watched.

3. Respect, Tolerance and Play Etiquette

We celebrate diversity. This is a “Safer Space” for all bodies, identities and preferences.

No Body Shaming & Kink Shaming: We do not tolerate any judgemental comments about appearance, age, weight or chosen fetishes.

No gawking: Nobody is to be laughed at or stared at. Respect other people's privacy.

Respecting play scenes: When other guests are playing (e.g. bondage, pet play, D/s), they are often in a deeply focused mental state (“subspace/topspace”). This means:

Keep your distance: Do not get too close to an ongoing scene. Give those playing space.

Do not interrupt: Never speak to those playing or intervene without being asked (except in an absolute emergency).

Discretion: Watching is (usually) allowed, but only from a respectful distance and without intrusive staring.

4. Alcohol, Drugs & Fitness to Play

BDSM and fetish play require full awareness, clear communication and complete control. Our rules are therefore:

Know your limits: Please enjoy alcohol only in moderation.

No play while intoxicated: Anyone who is visibly very drunk or under the influence of drugs may not actively play (as either a top or a bottom).

Safety: Our team (awareness/security/bar staff) reserves the right to deny guests access to the play area or stop serving them alcohol if they are no longer able to make sound decisions.

The principle: Only someone sober enough to give a clear “yes” or “no” can play safely.

5. Communication & Boundaries (Negotiation)

Open communication is the key to safety and fun.

Before play:

Be clear: Before every interaction, discuss your desires (likes) and boundaries (limits). Do not assume the other person can read your mind.

Uncertainty: In our community, “I don't know” or “maybe” always means “no”. Only a clear yes provides a basis for play.

During play:

Boundaries can change: You have the right to change your mind or stop playing at any time, without having to justify yourself.

Check-in: If something doesn't feel right, say so immediately or use a safeword/stop signal.

Respect: Accept other people's boundaries immediately. Attempts to persuade or argue (“Oh come on, just a little”) are absolute no-gos and count as harassment.

6. Discretion & Confidentiality (The "Vegas Rule")

The principle is: What happens in the club stays in the club.

We protect our guests' lives outside the scene. After the party, the following applies:

No outing: You must never tell anyone who you saw here.

No gossip: Do not share details about scenes or activities that could identify anyone.

Social media: No public posts (including text status updates) that reveal who was there.

Names don't matter: We use scene names, if any. Legal names and professions are off-limits unless the other person volunteers that information.

A breach of confidentiality ("outing") is the most serious violation in our community and results in a permanent ban.

7. Hygiene & Cleanliness

We place great importance on cleanliness so that everyone feels comfortable.

Personal hygiene: Arriving freshly showered and well-groomed is an absolute must and a sign of respect for your play partners.

Play furniture: After use, please thoroughly clean all wipeable play furniture (benches, crosses, couches) with the disinfectant provided.

Bodily fluids: For wetter play, always use your own towels or protective sheets to protect the club's furniture.

Equipment: Your own toys must be clean and safe. Please report any damaged or dirty club equipment to staff immediately.

8. Harassment & Intrusive Behaviour (No Harassment)

We have a zero-tolerance policy on harassment. A “no” (spoken or expressed through body language) marks the immediate end of an interaction.

The following counts as boundary-crossing behaviour:

Persisting after rejection: Repeatedly approaching someone to talk or dance when they have already signalled that they are not interested.

Stalking: Following someone through the club or constantly staying close to them (“shadowing”).

Pressure: Attempts to push someone into doing something (“Come on, just try it”) count as coercion.

Catcalling: Unsolicited, suggestive comments about someone's body or appearance.

Anyone who does not respect other people's need for distance must leave the party.

9. Venue Authority & Team Instructions

Our team (awareness, bar staff, security) looks after your safety and keeps things running smoothly.

The final say: Staff have authority over the premises. The team's decisions are final and non-negotiable.

Act immediately: If a team member asks you to stop an activity, keep more distance or leave an area, you must comply immediately.

No arguments: Anyone who ignores instructions or starts arguing puts the Safer Space at risk and will be removed from the venue.

We are here for you

please work with us, not against us.

10. Mindful Watching (Voyeurism)

Watching is often part of play, but it requires great sensitivity.

The invisible wall: As a spectator, be as unobtrusive as possible. Do not become a distraction.

Volume: Play areas often have a focused silence. Please only whisper there, or do not talk at all. Loud laughter or shouting is not allowed.

Distance & access: Keep a respectful distance from those playing. Make sure you do not block walkways or emergency exits, and do not stand behind the dom/top ("No shadowing").

Looking: Enjoy the view discreetly. Persistent eye contact or "gawking" can throw those playing off their rhythm. If someone turns away, look away.

11. Aftercare & Caring for Each Other

A session does not end with the last strike or the release of restraints. It only ends after aftercare.

Do not leave them alone: Never leave your play partner alone immediately after an intense scene. Stay until they are safely back in the here and now (“grounded”).

Care: Provide water, warmth (a blanket), quiet and so on.

Be attentive: Watch for signs of “sub drop” (an emotional low after the adrenaline rush) and respond with understanding.

Aftercare is a sign of respect and responsibility and an integral part of every play session.

12. Have Fun & Look Out for Each Other!

We are here to have an unforgettable time, make connections and enjoy life. So bring your friends and your best mood!

An important request: We do our best to organise everything, but we cannot keep an eye on every corner. So please be part of our awareness team yourselves:

Report it immediately: If someone's behaviour concerns you or seems "out of step with the scene", please report it to our team on site straight away. Only then can we address the situation and protect you.

Feedback: A complaint the next day helps us improve for the future, but it cannot resolve the problem on the night. Please speak to us directly instead!

And now: Have fun dancing, playing and connecting!